016 — Go first

“99 percent of life is showing up”

Pourquoi est-ce si difficile de foncer et de faire les premiers pas? “Go first” c’est l’idée de prendre l’initiative en évitant de se poser trop de questions. C’est une approche de type “Flight 93” qui consiste à foncer vers le cockpit, en se disant qu’on a rien à perdre. La gêne, la peur du rejet ou l’incapacité à accepter d’être vulnérable sont des freins à l’idée d’avancement, mais il y a des façons de surmonter ces obstacles.

Dans cet épisode on ajoute au stack le principe Go First et on évoque les questions suivantes:

• Qu’est-ce qui devient possible quand on arrive à se convaincre qu’on a rien à perdre?

• Comment peut s’appliquer le principe GF dans le quotidien et dans les petits gestes?

• Comment entretenir la conversation entre ce qu’on a été et ce qu’on peut devenir?

• Prendre conscience des éléments favorables qui sont souvent invisibles dans le quotidien (David Whyte)

• Visualiser le passage du temps comme façon de se motiver à foncer (Tim Urban)

• L’importance du “what” — savoir ce que l’on veut pour mieux foncer.

• Comment systématiser le développement du principe (Jordan Harbinger)

• Comment GF permet de développer des connaissances périphériques ou obliques (John Kay).

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Références

00:00 — お元気ですか？

03:30 — Go first, pourquoi c’est important de prendre l’initiative?

15:30 — Dans le cadre des attentats du 11 septembre, quatre assaillants d'Al-Qaïda ont détourné le vol 93 d'United Airlines, un vol intérieur régulier de passagers, aux petites heures du matin du 11 septembre 2001. À la suite d'une tentative des passagers et de l'équipage de reprendre le contrôle du jet des pirates de l'air, le Boeing s'est finalement écrasé dans le comté de Somerset, en Pennsylvanie. United93 est un des films qui relate l’histoire.

"I think an act of heroism just took place on that plane” — Frmr. Vice President Dick Cheney

22:20 — Trois freins (1) la gêne, (2) la peur du rejet ou d’être ignoré, (3) peur d’être vulnérable.

“Everyone is shy. Other people are waiting for you to introduce yourself to them, they are waiting for you to send them an email, they are waiting for you to ask them on a date. Go ahead.” — Kevin Kelly

31:30 — David Whyte: Everything is waiting for you

Your great mistake is to act the drama
as if you were alone. As if life
were a progressive and cunning crime
with no witness to the tiny hidden
transgressions. To feel abandoned is to deny
the intimacy of your surroundings. Surely,
even you, at times, have felt the grand array;
the swelling presence, and the chorus, crowding
out your solo voice. You must note
the way the soap dish enables you,
or the window latch grants you freedom.
Alertness is the hidden discipline of familiarity.
The stairs are your mentor of things
to come, the doors have always been there
to frighten you and invite you,
and the tiny speaker in the phone
is your dream-ladder to divinity.

Put down the weight of your aloneness and ease into the
conversation. The kettle is singing
even as it pours you a drink, the cooking pots
have left their arrogant aloofness and
seen the good in you at last. All the birds
and creatures of the world are unutterably
themselves. Everything is waiting for you.

David Whyte

35:25 — Tim Urban (Wait but why) Your life in weeks, The tail end et How Covid Stole Our Time and How We Can Get It Back.

Depressing Math reveals a cold truth: While you may not be anywhere near the end of your life, you may very well be nearing the end of your time spent with some of the most important people in your life.

41:35 — Jordan Harbinger — 6-minutes networking course et si vous n’avez pas la patience pour faire le cours, le podcast avec James Altucher est un bon point de départ. Voir aussi Jordan Harbinger show.

00:00 — À propos du “what” — “Knowing what you want is the most important life skill” (Janan Ganesh)

Among the defects and oversights of the self-help industry is that it dwells on the How. It has less to say about the What. All the life hacks in northern California assume you have an end to which to put them. “Follow your purpose”, comes the cry, as though the audience has resolved what that is.

50:25 — “99 percent of life is showing up” — Woody Allen (dont la formule originale serait “Showing up is 80 percent of life” mais le sens reste le même)

51:25 — Connaissance périphérique ou oblique.

“If you want to go in one direction, the best route may involve going in the other. Paradoxical as it sounds, goals are more likely to be achieved when pursued indirectly. So the most profitable companies are not the most profit-oriented, and the happiest people are not those who make happiness their main aim. The name of this idea? Obliquity” — John Kay